My GF of 5 years (27F) broke her phone and I (32M) lent her my backup phone. All her photos were saved to my Google Photos account. That’s how I found out she cheated on me with common friends. Please wake me up

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One year ago I quit my job and moved to Canada to be closer to my GF and find a job. We were apart for 4 months before I came and as you would expect, long distance relationships are hard. We managed to make it through. At least that’s what I thought. I was happy to be back with her but I couldn’t help thinking something was off. The sex was almost non-existent despite being very attracted to each other. I always thought that it would get better with time but she told me she had a low sex-drive since she got her new birth control (switch from a ring to IUD). She only seemed aroused and flirty when inebriated. We had crazy parties followed by amazing sex but that’s pretty much it. No sober sex.

I noticed she was very close to some of our common friends, which is absolutely fine with me. I encourage her to have male friends.

Two weeks ago, she damaged her phone beyond repair so I lent her an old one. She put her SIM and micro sd card in it and without us knowing it started saving all her pics to my Google Photos account. As you may know, Google Photos can automatically create Albums and push a notification when it has been created.

This is how I found out she had sex sessions when I wasn’t in Canada but also when I was there passed out in the room next door. The Cherry on the cake? It was with our common friends. I am devastated. I haven’t confronted her/them. I feel like such a creep for looking at her photos on my phone. I feel betrayed by her but also by my friends. I talked about it with other people (Canadians) and they seem to agree on this: “It’s not that bad if it’s only oral sex, as long as she doesn’t have feelings for them, they were probably wasted”. I must have lived under a rock if that’s something accepted nowadays...

I am now about to leave the country because my Tourist Visa is expiring soon and no company is willing to sponsor me for a work permit. She’s convinced that if we get married, it will be easier for me to stay in the country. Why would you want to get married if you know you're unfaithful. It's certainly not for the money, I'm struggling after being unemployed for a year. I told her I will come back again on a Tourist Visa (if they let me in a third time…) and start the paperwork for Permanent Residency. I don’t know what to do anymore. I really don’t. I love my life here with her but knowing these secrets I don’t think I can do it anymore. None of it was part of a mutual agreement. I wish I was more jealous. I wish I was less naive......

Pls he needs your sincere advice. Let's discourse this

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